Christmas is just around the corner, and for many that means food, celebrations and socialising. We often forget, or don’t understand, how this time affects those who have autism. Not everyone is comfortable with the high expectations of Christmas. The socialising, the noise, it can bring fear and anxiety. While close members of family might understand this extended family often doesn’t.
Caryn is a support worker who helps people who are on the spectrum. One of her clients recently cancelled Christmas plans because the anxiety of extra noise, lots of people and excitement was too much. She wrote a poem explores what these anxieties might mean to many. Thanks Caryn.
Autism and Christmas: The 12 Days of autism
Christmas is here to give all good cheer
For some a fear, overbearing to hear.
Not only for our pets, but for us too
We don’t react to Christmas, like others do.
Every where’s so busy, nowhere to run and hide.
The chaos of Christmas. Not laughing. Just cried.
People arriving, with gifts to share
Not knowing the plans, I was not prepared.
Laughing and screeching, talking and songs
Noise levels heighten, the days are too long.
Triggers are forming, beyond my control
Anxiety and distress, me as a whole.
Called to the table, Christmas dinner is here
All family gathered, my food didn’t appear.
Turkey not pizza, Brussels not beans
My foods I enjoy, and my routines.
Gifts and wrapping, too much to bear
Unexpected surprises I was not aware.
“Go ahead and open, the gifts are for you
It swaps out your old one, for something new”.
Attachment and comfort, my personal things
Could never be replaced, the anxiety it brings.
So please do not think, I’m just being rude
The Tatty and old, cannot be renewed.
This day is so special to everyone but me
Crackers and corks, chasing lights on the tree.
So please be patient and give me the time
And not just for Christmas, understand my mind.
