Take a stand against Domestic Abuse

Domestic Abuse

The YOU Trust is joining with other fantastic organisations around the world this year to support of the 16 Days of Action Against Domestic Violence and Abuse and White Ribbon campaigns to end male violence against women once and for all. We have launched the “Take a stand against Domestic Abuse” campaign to raise some much-needed awareness on the issue starting with this introduction to what Domestic Abuse is.

What is Domestic Abuse

The UK government defines domestic violence and abuse as an act or series of acts which may be violent, abusive, coercive and threatening behaviour or controlling often between individuals 16 or over, that are/ were in a relationship, been intimate or between family members.

Types Of Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse can take various forms, the most common of which are Physical, Sexual, Financial and Psychological /Emotional.

Physical Abuse: This form of abuse covers a lot of physical acts of violence towards the victim including acts like; punching, slapping, hitting, biting, pinching, pulling hairs, shoving, strangling and, violence against family/pets, use or threat of use of weapons (knives, bats, sticks, etc.)

Sexual Abuse: This form of domestic abuse refers to unwanted acts of a sexual nature directed at the victim. This includes acts like, sexual harassment or pressure, rape, persuading others (especially children) to participate in sexual acts and use of sexually degrading language.

Financial: This refers to situations where a person looks to gain from the finances of another over whom they have influence or control over. Financial abuse includes acts such as making the victim take out credit, taking loans in the victim’s name, stealing from them, destroying their property, controlling their access to money, not contributing to joint bills and so on.

Psychological/Emotional: This is where the victim is psychologically controlled by the abuser. The victim may be subjected to controlling and coercive acts that cause them to feel guilty, ignored, isolated, scared, bullied, insignificant, and may be prevented from making decisions about their own lives such as who they see and where they can or can’t go.

Other Types Of Domestic Abuse To Note

Stalking: Stalking is defined as the persistent and unwanted attention that makes you feel pestered and harassed, distressed, alarmed, fearful of violence against you (Victim Support). It includes acts like following, watching or spying on a person, forcing contact with them (including contacting them on Social media), regularly sending unwanted gifts and sending threats.

FGM: FGM or Female Genital Mutilation is a term used to describe acts of removing partially or completely, the external female genitalia for non-medical reasons. These acts are often referred to as female circumcision or cutting and are commonly practised by people of minority ethnic groups especially those of Middle Eastern, African and Asian origin.

These acts are illegal in the UK and are considered a gross violation of human rights against girls and women because of the suffering that they cause those affected especially during sex and childbirth.

Who Is Affected By Domestic Abuse?

Although women are the most likely to be victims of Domestic Abuse, anyone could be a victim of Domestic Abuse regardless of age, gender, sexuality.

  • According to the ONS, “an estimated 1.9 million adults aged 16 to 59 years experienced domestic abuse” in the UK last year – of those, 713,000 were men.
  • 228,385 child protection referrals were made as a result of domestic abuse-related incidents in the year ending June 2017.
  • 64% of women staying in refuges have children staying with them.
  • Among the elderly, although the proportion of domestic abuse cases tends to decline with age among women, the opposite is the case in men.

Graph showing proportion of domestic violence against the person by age and sex

The YOU Trust’s Role

At The YOU Trust, we are committed to developing and delivering services that reduce harm and increase the safety of all victims and survivors of Domestic Abuse within our community.

We are actively working to achieve this by providing expert advice and support through our community and accommodation based services which ensure our clients have easy access to the emotional support and security they need to move on. These services are listed below.

Please follow the links to contact the relevant team if you need any support

Domestic Abuse Services

Children and Family Services

Refuge and Safe Houses

Community Support Groups

Outreach Support

Independent Domestic Violence Advocated

Take a Stand Today

You can take a stand with us today by

  1. sharing this post on your social media page to raise awareness among your friends
  2. supporting the work we do to support the victims and survivors of Domestic Abuse. You can do this by Giving Online or directly to our services in Dorset (youfirstdorsetenquiries@theyoutrust.org.uk) and Hampshire (spoc@theyoutrust.org.uk)
  3. or you can get some training and equip yourself to better spot cases of Domestic Abuse. Our sister organisation, My Learning Cloud, provides excellent e-learning courses on Domestic Abuse, Safeguarding Children and Young People and Safeguarding Adults that would be perfect starting points for this.

‘March’ing forwards for Women

With International Women’s Day falling on the 8th of March and Mother’s Day on the 26th, YOU has decided to make March all about women and we’d love for YOU to be involved.

BE BOLD FOR CHANGE

This year’s International Women’s Day theme is ‘Be Bold for Change’, a message true to our hearts as an organisation. On average 2 women every week in England and Wales are killed  by a current or former partner (Office of National Statistics, 2015). Our domestic abuse support services in Hampshire and Dorset support and empower women into safer, independent lives free from fear and violence.  We believe that it is everyone’s responsibility, be they male, female, young or old, to help build a safer and more inclusive world. We’ll be taking part in pledging to be Bold for Change as part of the International Women’s Day campaign and asking people ‘what does being bold mean to you?’

Yesterday our Chair and Trustees kicked things off by pledging their support. The best thing about this campaign is we can all be involved! Visit the website, spread the word and pledge your boldness.

https://www.internationalwomensday.com/

SUPPORT OUR CAMPAIGN

We’re currently in the process of opening a new refuge provision in Dorset (read more about it here). We’re thrilled to be opening new support for women in a time when refuges all over the country are under threat from funding cuts.  We’ve got the rooms and the roof, but we need some help in getting the place ready for living in. Can you spare some pounds to help us buy essentials like white goods for the kitchen? Check out our Total Giving page here:

http://www.totalgiving.co.uk/mypage/domesticabuserefugedonations

 

Buy With Confidence – New Accreditation for our Care Services

We’re very pleased this week to announce that we’ve been accredited with Buy With Confidence + Care membership for our Hampshire care services. This means we are officially ‘Trading Standards Approved’. It’s a great way for future customers to know they’re in safe hands.

We’ve always known our care packages are exemplary, and prize Excellence and being Trustworthy as core values to the way we work…but now you no longer have to take our word for it! You can find us on the Buy With Confidence website here.

We provide domiciliary care in Hampshire to people of all abilities. For more info on what we offer and how to enquire, check out our service page.